How to regain your motivation after a setback


Like many people, I’ve heard this quote since I was young.  “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try, try again.”  And most of us try to live by this, because we know life is not easy and we will inevitably fail at something.

The first try again is usually relatively easy.  You may have to take some time to grieve, to be frustrated, and then to pump yourself up to try again, but the majority of us will try again.

The second, the third, and the fourth try are much harder.

If you do not succeed the second time, more doubt begins to enter your mind. “Maybe I can’t do this.”

By the third try, most of us are ready to throw in the towel.  “I can’t do this.”

So should you give up?

Of course not!

If there is a goal you really want to achieve – no matter the goal – try, try, try, try, and keep on trying!

How do you gain motivation after many obstacles and failures?

  • Take the first step again.  Once you take the first step, the rest is much easier.  So promise yourself to take that first step again.  It’s just one thing – whether it’s going to the gym again, opening up a textbook again, or starting to save again.  Whatever your first step is to reach your goal – do it.  Just the first step.  The rest will fall into place.
  • Enjoy the process.  Find joy in trying new workouts or recipes, learning a new skill or finding ways to become thrifty.  Instead of just focusing on “getting through” until you reach your goal, find ways to make every step of the process fun and enjoyable.  This will make getting back on track after an obstacle much easier and pleasant.
  • Let any failures stay in the past.  Do not relive moments of discouragement over and over again.  I know that is so much easier said than done!  But a trait of highly successful people is they can let go of past mistakes.  Think of what you would tell a close friend who is in the same situation as you – and tell yourself that advice.  We are so much harder on ourselves – so treat yourself like a loved one and you will move on much easier.
  • Learn from any mistakes.  That’s what mistakes are for – to learn.  Know your triggers for behavior that leads you off the right path, and find ways to either avoid them or better handle the situations.  Remember, knowledge is power – and mistakes are just a way to gain more knowledge.  So the next time you face the same obstacle, you will have the power to overcome it!

Will dealing with any goal, you will inevitably face obstacles.  But don’t let these obstacles keep you from dreaming, from working, and from reaching your goals!


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